Message from John Carter

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Friday, April 13, 2012

Here We Go

He looks like an Abercrombie & Fitch model, doesn't he?  Now, I'm not really into diving, but I wouldn't mind helping this young guy towel off. 

So, anyway, here I am, sitting at my iMac once again, wondering if a virus is masquerading as Adobe and thinking that I could be wrestling this weekend, but I'm not.  I was planning on driving over to Oklahoma to do some wrestling.  I'd even set up a meeting with a guy.  Or, I thought I'd set up a meeting with a guy.  Okay, let me explain.  And maybe there's some sort of lesson in this for us all.

I contacted a guy who lives over near Oklahoma City a few weeks ago and asked him if he'd be interested in wrestling if I came over his way.  He responded that he was very interested and asked if he could speak to me.  I sent him my phone number and he started texting me. 

We texted back and forth over a few days, and we ironed out all the details of when I'd be in town and where we'd meet.  About a week passed, and I assumed that our plans were all finalized.

Then I got an email from him via globalfight in which he asked if I would come to Oklahoma to wrestle him.  I responded that yes, I was coming, in about two weeks.

Then he wrote back and asked when I was coming and where I might be staying.

It occurred to me that the text conversations had been completely forgotten.  In fact, he didn't even remember that I was the guy he'd texted with.  (yeah, I know: with whom he'd texted)

So, I did not drive all the way to Oklahoma to wrestle him.  I was afraid that I'd drive all that way and he wouldn't even remember who I was.

I'm not mad.  No need for that.  Just a little perplexed, that's all.  Are electronic communications really so nebulous, so fly-away and disposable, that they mean absolutely nothing?  Naw, that can't be true.  I text and email with guys all the time, and they take the messages seriously.

Maybe it's a generational thing?  The guy was quite a bit younger than me.  Maybe to guys in their twenties, nothing has weight unless it's right there in front of them.  Instant gratification.  Anything that involves a waiting period is not worth retaining? 

Or maybe this guy just isn't that bright?

What do you guys think?


  1. If I were to meet up with a guy I met online, John, I would meet up with him in a public place such as a cafe where there were other ppl around. I'd do this bc there are a lot of strange ppl out there and I'd need to check him out first.

    Maybe I'm over reacting but that's what I would do.

  2. That is a very good idea, actually. Especially if you have not done much wrestling with guys online. However, here's another idea. If you find a guy you want to wrestle, write me and tell me his name (his online name). I can check with my friends and see if anyone knows him. That way you might be able to get some personal references first. Better safe than sorry!